Mental health is often a taboo topic in many societies. People are told to man up and get your shit together, which for people with depression is the same as telling someone who has a flu to just stop coughing and just be healthy again. Nowadays depression and anxiety are becoming more and more common, especially among young people. Due of globalization and social networks, our everday lives have changed drastically the past 20 years and many are struggling to keep up. Here are 5 changes you can make to your mentality to improve your day to day life:
1. When meeting someone new, always expect to learn something you don’t know
Accepting that you may be flawed or inexperienced and that it’s totally fine is an important skill in life. People are like fingerprints, they can be eerily similar, but there’ll always be something about one that separates it from the other. Because people are shaped by every tiny little thing that happens to them, there will always be people that have different stories and experiences than you.
One physical trait that separates us humans from other animals is that our brain has developed to allow us to imagine a scenario that would affect us negatively and precautiously take steps to avoid it happening instead of having to learn from experience. This second hand experience is what allows us to learn and adapt much faster.
2. Don’t overestimate your judgment
We humans like to believe that we’re right. When you’re arguing with someone, and you know they’re objectively wrong, it’s the best feeling in the world. But low agreeableness is also a trait that can limit your possibilities in life. By embracing other people’s opinions and acknowledging that you could in fact be wrong, you can shift the focus from winning and losing to growing as an individual. Making mistakes is one of the most human things, and it’s coincidentally also one of the things that kickstart improvement. Every time you make a mistake, your brain remembers that it was a negative experience, and will start making up new ideas to improve upon those mistakes.
3. Be modest
Being narcissistic and always wanting to show people how skilled you are at something can make people dislike you or feel that you’re not a genuine person. By practising modesty, you’ll find that people will respect you more, and you’ll start to feel better about your own achievements.
4. Ask more questions
People love feeling like they’re being cared about, and by asking people questions about them, about how what they’ve done in the past or how they feel at the moment, you can build stronger bonds and develop better relationships. Humans are social creatures, and our happiness and creativity flourish when we work together.
5. Compare yourself to your past rather than to your peers
There are a lot of different factors that come into play in personal growth.
Country of birth/residence
The main factor is the country of birth/residence, since you can only grow as much as the country’s economic and cultural progression allows. If you live in a country with low standards of living, you may consider checking out what opportunities you have to relocate to a different country.
The next factor is what family you’re born into. People born into an upper class family will often have more access to better education, and may also partake in more intelligent conversations at home, which helps the brain grow faster. If you’re not able to have intelligent conversations at home, it can be really useful to seek out other people online sharing the same interests as you with the desire to learn.
Your personal finance is a micro level factor, but it’s also one of the most important factors. A low income of course will limit one’s ability to purchase equipment one might need for whatever hobby or profession they want to pursue. Saving up money can be beneficial, but it’s important to know what to spend money on and what you’re better off putting aside for the time being.
Because of the sheer amount of factors that play into one’s personal growth, it’s only logical to compare your progress today to what you have achieved in the past.
6. You are not bad, but inexperienced
When you’re not good at doing something, whether it’s cooking, photoshop or playing an instrument, it’s all due to inexperience. Treat every single skill you try to improve as a skill in a video game, where every time you use the skill, you gain a tiny bit of experience points. You won’t notice anything right away, but if you keep at it consistently, you’ll slowly improve over time, and when you look back in retrospect, you’ll be able to see it for yourself.